Femininity: I want to rest in my feminine energy at all times

Sometimes I feel extremely conflicted about my state of being and the ways in which I present myself to the world. I love the different identities’ that make me me but all things have its pros and cons. As the year comes to an end, I wanted to reflect on the soft life discussion and femininity that happened at the beginning of this year.

Within the past seven months, I’ve realized that I am a completely different being in Mali than I am in New York city. Malian society allows me to rest and live in my feminine energy at all times. It is welcomed. I feel like I am fighting for my life here. My feminine being is respected, accepted and a necessity for the betterment of society. While I understand that different social norms result in different living conditions and over all well being, there are some things that should be normalized in all societies. The first and most important thing that needs to be addressed is respect. I find it that is common for some people to equate respect with chivalry which couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, these two words should not be used synonymously.

Hearing and watching the conversations being had on podcasts and social media have given me a greater understanding of peoples view on femininity and respect. It has also inspired me to write this as well as a recent experience I had in public. If you follow me on IG and/or TikTok, then you know what I am talking writing about. My definition of soft life is one that doesn’t seem to fit into the American lifestyle. As much as millennials and gen z seem to be quitting traditional jobs and not accepting gross and detested work environments, there’s still a huge population of American society that work traditional jobs. With that comes less family time. Part of my definition of living a soft life is resting in my femininity, being at complete peace and tranquility in my daily life, prioritizing family/family time and obeying my Lord to the best of my ability. Being able to do things on my own time. The only way that seems to be done in America is if you’re an entrepreneur which comes with its own headache and the “grind” that never stops.

The reason why I bring up respect is that I need and want it before I want a society filled with aesthetically pleasing people. People are losing their sense of self and basic manners and by people, I mean men. I am not sure what’s going on in New York but the disrespect towards women is getting crazier by the minute. There are just some things I don’t have to deal with in Mali. Not saying that disrespect doesn’t exist there, but I don’t have to tap into my masculine energy to get things done. I don’t have to tap into my masculine energy in order to survive in that society. That society doesn’t require me to defend myself the way I have to in American society. And that is where the soft life topic comes into play. Can I truly live my softest life the way I want too here? Is it possible to rest in my femininity here? Do I have to deal with this or not? I am slowly realizing that I don’t...

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